"Think Reconnaissance"
Here's our suggestions:
1. If your going to go out and you might encounter someone of interest, dress one notch above what you would usually wear for yourself. If you wear sweatpants all day and chug beer you might try a pair of jeans and a clean t-shirt. If you wear couture fashion, continue to wear that fashion appropriately but don't go over the top unless your jet-setting to NYC because here in Rochester their aren't many hot places to go that sport high fashion.
2. As for other preparation, look like you actually care. Trim your beard or go-tee and shave if you prefer a smooth cheek. The dirty musky 5 o'clock shadow, attracts dirty musky girls. It is only appealing when they aren't kissing you, and well that's just plain boring, so might as well go for something that might bring a little closeness to the conversation.
3. Take a shower
4. Wear one spray of your cologne (or none) and put it on the skin, not your shirt or underwear. The mystique of sent is only good if it is still there once all the undies are out of the way.
The biggest mistake we see people make is their choice of location when they are meeting women. If you are an Uber Geek try going to some conventions that aren't star-trek inspired. Become interested in a mutual topic that can bridge the gap between men and women interests.
Personally I love to cook, I like it because I get to eat good food and its always a good way to get a girl back to your place. "Can I cook you dinner" usually goes over on the third date or so.
As for you, look for something that you find men and women doing. It could be reading, shopping, jogging (although not my favorite), boating, or even just the art of mixing drinks. Anything that can get you a lead into their interests and interests you is a good thing. Just remember to also choose a location that supports those interests and there's bound to be both sexes in attendance.
Now that you are in the right place the next important step is what to say. We won't go into how you should get a girl to talk to you, because if a smile and a shy grin doesn't work move on. As for how you should conduct proper conversation, The Perspective suggests using questions. Don't sit and talk about you, yourself, and you at all, the important thing here is to think reconnaissance.
Learn as much about her as you possibly can, if she likes you she will ask questions back, if she doesn't, walk away. Don't get yourself hung up on girls who aren't interested or seem like they are playing hard to get, there not, what they want you to do is go away and we suggest you take that suggestion.
So, once you are asking questions to a nice girl in the right location and you look like you actually care you should be well on your way to a first date at least. And if your not, don't be frustrated just try new places and new things and there's bound to be something out there.
-IAN
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